October 11, 2012

Seminarians and the Single Girl

The single-Catholic women I know are constantly complaining about the "crisis of masculinity"--how many of the men we know don't make decisions, don't pursue, don't seem to care about their vocation (which is clearly to love and honor and cherish and marry us). And then when we meet a young man in seminary who is dashingly handsome, or charming, or genuine, or good, we say bitterly: "He's a Father-what-a-waste."

I have always always always hated the "Father-what-a-waste" phrase. There are a million objections to it, of course, but, it recently struck me how corrosive this is in light of our response to the crisis of masculinity. These men--our peers!--are actively pursuing the question of "What does God want from me?" by placing their lives entirely in God's hands. If God is truly calling them to the priesthood, they will be our shepherds. And if they aren't called to the religious life, they will be better men, better husbands and fathers and friends, for having asked the question in the first place. 

If we are worried about men not being men, they we, young single Catholic women, should help them be men! Pray for our seminarians. And support them!

If you're in DC, please consider sponsoring the Marine Corps Marathon teams for Arlington and Washington. Fund Mater Ecclesia, which helps retire the student debt for men and women considering the religious life. Let these men be men; let them pursue God's calling. Your prayers and your support won't be wasted. Nothing is wasted.


  1. Oh Maggie, thank you for writing this! I'm so glad to know I'm not alone in feeling this way - I was starting to feel a bit odd! (please ignore the glaring possibility of an obvious joke or ten there :))

  2. Well said, we would do well to remember that Jesus came to dwell among us so that we might know what true masculinity looks like.