"You'll marry William," I said. "You'll move somewhere. Then I'll never see you."
"I'm not going to marry William," Mary said.
"Then what are you doing with him?"
"I'm having a friendship," Mary said, settling in on the couch. "It's a kind of friendship of struggle, and when I get through the struggle I'll know something important."
"If I knew I wouldn't have to struggle."
--Goodbye without Leaving, by Laurie Colwin